Conventional wisdom tells us that making a man cum is relatively easy. A few minutes of sex are usually enough to bring him to climax. But there is a factor that people often overlook – the quality of the orgasm. Men may not usually have the toe-curling, knee-bending multiple orgasms that women are capable of, but not all orgasms feel the same for men. Knowing how to make your man cum hard makes a huge difference in sex and his sexual satisfaction.
Here are a few simple and practical tips that can make all the difference.
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How To Make Him Cum — Giving Him A Great Orgasm
It All Starts With Enthusiasm
Ladies, the greatest thing you can do to start things off the right way is being enthusiastic. Be responsive and involved during sex. The key is not just having sex, but showing him that you want it as much as he does.
This isn’t about picking up an amazing sex position and just letting it happen. Nor is it about selecting a kinky sex position that lets him dominate. It’s about stroking his ego and letting him know that you want him. Your involvement in the act and clear verbal cues and body language have to let him know that you want him.
A lot of women do show enthusiasm in selecting a sex position, but after that they just let it happen. Be involved, pleasure his ego like you are pleasuring his penis. Just lying there with your legs, arms, and head motionless isn’t going to cut it. Neither are mechanical porn sounds. Making him cum hard means being an active participant in the act, not just being flexible in taking a position.
Tell Him To Focus On Making Himself Cum
For many men, performance is an important aspect. Often this means that they will focus on getting you to orgasm before they get to the climax themselves. Awesome as it is, once in a while, you can tell your man to focus on himself.
There is nothing wrong with him being concerned with you getting your orgasm. However, with men taking that pressure on to themselves, they will often give up their own sense of pleasure that brings on the strongest orgasms.
His job for the night should be to get the most for himself and have an orgasm he deserves. Conversely, there should be nights where the focus is on your pleasure. On the nights that are about him, tell him to relax and spend his energies on himself first. However, men will often be loath to admit to this approach, and perhaps even insist on getting you to orgasm first.
A better approach, therefore, might be that you take control and focus on making him cum. He can lie back passively as you take control of the reins and guide him to an orgasm. It doesn’t necessarily mean that you take on the role of a dominant woman, it can be as simple as the woman-on-top sex position. Although there is no harm in taking on the role of a dom if you both enjoy it. Which brings us to the next point.
Know His Likes And Fantasies To Propel His Orgasm
He could have a sex position or a fantasy that gets him going. Know what he likes, and use it to your mutual advantage. Dressing up and roleplaying scenarios can be easy fun that not just build anticipation for both of you, but also create room for an amazing release.
If you do decide on a roleplaying scenario, be sure that you are comfortable with it. Convincing yourself otherwise won’t play quite well. Being open-minded and non-judgmental about each other’s kinks and fantasies is important. And while you should try to accommodate and accept, it is okay to skip a fantasy if it is way too far from your comfort zone.
Build Up To the Main Event
Anticipation can be an amazing aphrodisiac. Let him know he has a treat waiting for him, and build up to the main event. It doesn’t have to be instantaneous, and you can give him a day or two of abstinence in preparing for the special event.
Take this time to build up anticipation and expectation. For example, you can talk dirty to him, giving him subtle hints to peak his interest. Perhaps even spice up your bedroom for him to take note and enjoy. Building up sexual tension is a great way to prepare him to cum hard. If you intend on building up, be sure to forbid him from masturbating.
Spend Some Time On Foreplay, And An Amazing Blowjob
Men do enjoy foreplay, just make sure it isn’t a few half-hearted tugs at his penis. Passionate kissing, displaying your desire, and touching his body all over can make him excited pretty quickly. Most men enjoy having their balls fondled, and many enjoy having their nipples caressed. Several love it when women play with their chest hair.
If you know he loves those things, give them some time in your foreplay. In case neither of you are sure about it, give it a shot and watch for his verbal and non-verbal cues.
The penis, of course, is the most sensitive and important part. Shower it with attention and affection. Touch it, hold it, kiss it, play with it – show it some love. And of course, know how to give him an amazing blow job. Oral sex is extremely important, just don’t put all the proverbial eggs in one basket. Fulfilling sex is more important than a killer blowjob.
Bring In The Tools And Consider Prostate Play
Stimulation of the prostate, or the p-spot, can bring men to amazing and strong orgasms. The p-spot orgasm can be different as compared to normal orgasm and may allow men to have multiple orgasms. If he is into prostate play, knowing your way around to stimulating his p-spot might just be the key to making your boyfriend cum hard. In the event that he is not as appreciative of p-spot stimulation, you can try massaging his perineum for greater sensation.
Surveys and studies show that men often are reluctant to bring in sex toys to the bedroom. However, once introduced to the toys, they enjoy using them. This can be true for the toys for you as well as the toys for him. Give prostate play a try, and if he likes it, you can consider including prostate massagers and toys like cock rings.
Ironing Out Some Problem Points — What If He Doesn’t Cum?
Most men will cum in about 5 to 10 minutes. In some cases, the man may take too long to cum. There are a few “usual suspects” in these cases. Men with health issues may take longer to cum, or may not ejaculate at all. These also include depression, anxiety, and lack of self-esteem.
Another common problem is the so-called iron fist or death grip. Some men hold their penis rather strongly during masturbation, which may cause reduced sensitivity during sex. Lowering his grip strength or abstaining from masturbation for a while will help in regaining sensitivity.
Men wearing condoms may also take longer to ejaculate. If you think this is affecting your sex life, it may be worthwhile to look into other birth-control options.
Lastly, he may have difficulty cumming if there are relationship issues. As a couple, if you think there are problems with your relationship, it may be more important to sort out those troubles first.
Making Your Man Cum Hard, And Doing It With Style
Giving your man an intense orgasm is satisfying and fulfilling. Making your man cum hard is an amazing experience for him, but can be quite a boost for your own ego as well. Getting your partner to cum hard is an intricate process, and some tips may feel conflicting. It’s a process that works differently for each individual and can take some time getting right. Of course, it pays to remember that giving your partner an amazing orgasm isn’t a one-way street, and you definitely should expect him to repay the favor!