You might have heard this from one of your female friends – ‘All they want is sex!’.
Yes, it is true that guys do think a lot about having sex with their partner, spouse or even a total stranger, but that is not what they only keep thinking of. If a guy is into you and wants to explore your heart and soul the way you might want, then he will make his moves that are hard to miss.
We have compiled a list of the top visible signs that a guy wants to make love to you, instead of just wanting casual sex or a one night stand with you.
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1. His Way of Looking at You
One of the most visible signs that a guy is trying to approach you is the way he looks at you. And this eye contact is not limited to the bedroom or when you’re in the car with him, he will have a different way of looking at you even when you are with him in a public place like a restaurant, a bus, on the sidewalk, etc.
Now, there could be different meanings that you might extract out of his way of looking at you. For example, if you are not into him or if your mind is too busy dealing with some other life issues or work problems, then it is very easy to confuse his looks with an uncomfortable stare.
Being a girl, you would know the difference between a guy just staring at you and when he is actually looking at you while you talk or get your work stuff done while he’s around.
2. Those Long, Deep Kisses
Love gurus say that a man’s kiss is one of the strongest weapons he has, and he wouldn’t just use this weapon the same way on every girl he comes across in his life. The level of commitment, intimacy and understanding defines the way a guy kisses a girl.
Kissing is one of the most intimate ways to express love. When a guy is wanting to ‘earn’ his place in your heart, he will kiss you differently. As a girl, you’ll be able to easily differentiate between a half-hearted kiss and the one that has a lot of meaning and emotions attached to it.
Also, a major sign for you should be when he doesn’t just limit his kiss to your lips. When there are real feelings attached, he will not hold back from kissing you on different parts of your body, and make sure that you feel good about it.
3. Frequent Body Contact
If a guy is finding different ways to communicate with you using his touch, it is a visible sign that he is trying to make love to you. Physical intimacy and lovemaking is all about the touch, however, that touch is not only limited to what you do when you are in bed with your lover.
Touching includes frequent contact with your body in both sexual or non-sexual ways. He might want to hold your hands, give you those gentle hugs every now and then, caress different parts of your body, give you a massage even when you haven’t asked for it, etc.
4. Quality and Duration of Foreplay
You can clearly tell whether a guy is really into you or not by the time and effort he puts into foreplay. If a guy is only focusing on having sex with you, he would make it rather quick and not get involved in sensual or intimate acts of lovemaking prior to sex.
However, if he is showing the desire to touch you in all the right parts of your body and mixing it up with acts of foreplay that might include use of sex toys such as a vibrator or a dildo – it is pretty evident that he wants to make actual love to you.
Moreover, he will not be in a rush to end the foreplay and dive straight into sex. If you are giving him visible signs of sexual pleasure from the foreplay, he will let it run for a while.
5. Talking Will Be Part of Intimacy
Real lovemaking involves a lot of deep, lengthy conversations that take place before and after sex. Remember, a guy who doesn’t intend to be there with you when you wake up the next morning, he will just probable doze off after having sex with you.
But a guy who is thinking beyond just getting into bed with you, will be good at making long conversations, even if he has to wake up at 7am the next morning! These conversations are an integral part of a strong emotional bonding that you have with your partner over time.
If a guy asks you about the life you have already lived, your worst fears or your greatest achievements, he is absolutely into you!
6. He Won’t Rush Into Sex
Another clear sign that a guy is wanting to make love to you is that he wouldn’t just dive into having sex with you the moment he sees an opportunity. He will keep things nice and slow, making sure you do not get uncomfortable in any way.
For example, if you are watching a movie with him and you are actually liking it because it has your favorite cast or whatever, he will watch it with you right till the end and not just force you into lovemaking only because he was feeling the need to do it.
7. You Will Hear Your Name Repeatedly
When you are in bed with him, or even during those late night phone calls or text messages, he will take your name more than once to show his feelings for you by addressing you with your name.
This is a sign that can be easily overlooked or ignored, but it can also be one of the strongest elements of intimacy and has the power to change the overall mood between two lovers.
If a guy gave you a reason to be upset with him and while you’re in the middle of throwing your tantrum at him, the moment he takes your name or whispers it in your ears might just change the whole energy in the room right away.
8. Your Pleasure and Satisfaction Will Be Valued
It won’t be just about him, his pleasures or his satisfaction. A guy who wants to make love to you will make sure you are getting equal pleasure (sexual or non-sexual) and emotional satisfaction in everything that he does for you.
There will be no selfishness, and you will be a part of all his decisions and random acts during the course of your relationship. If a guy is wanting to make you an integral part of his life, he will value what you want out of your life – whether the little things in bed, or your life or career goals.
9. Your Boundaries Will Matter to Him
Your ‘No’ will remain a ‘No’ for him. A guy who wants to make love to you will make sure to respect your boundaries and limitations – whether in bed, while being around with mutual friends, at public places, etc.
If you have clearly stated your rules or turn-offs, he will remember those for a long, long time! And if you haven’t, he might get to know about those through other indirect ways and he will still remember and respect your boundaries.
10. Desire to Explore the World With You
If a guy is talking about traveling the world, going on adventures, achieving his dreams – and making you part of all that, then it shows he is really into you. It is quite easy for a guy to just have sex with you and go on living his dream.
However, if there is someone who still wants to do all that he has planned or wished – with you by his side – well, it is pretty clear that he is not with you just for casual sex!
11. Those Compliments
Whether it’s your new dress, those cool shoes, that lovely hairstyle or your cute little clutch that you are holding – he will notice your things and will compliment.
It is important to understand that yes, we usually liked to be complimented rather than criticised for our things. However, if your guy doesn’t like a certain dress that you decided to wear at a friend’s party and he was vocal about it, you still need to take it in a positive way. Because the more important element is that he noticed and was honest about it.
12. The Level of Vulnerability
He won’t deliberately try to hold back his emotions or the things he decides to share with you in bed, on call or while on the road with you. He will feel secure to open up with you about any fears or bad moments that he had lived in the past.
This is why having those deep conversations with your partner is always a significant part of a relationship.
13. He Plans the Dates
Oh and yes, he will usually be the one to make plans over the weekends, or whenever you get free from your work hours. It doesn’t always have to be those candlelight dinners, but you would know his way of being romantic in everything that he plans with you.
14. Makes Time for You
We are all part of a fast-paced, highly competitive era. For career-oriented and workaholics, it is very easy to turn down their lovers most of the time by saying, ‘I’m busy’.
However, if a guy actually wants you in his life and wants you to know how much your existence matters to him, he will make time regardless of how occupied or busy his routine is.
15. He Will Be a Helping Hand
A guy who wants to stay after a good night’s sex, will show his intentions to help you whenever and wherever he can. From those breakfast meals and cleaning your place with you, to your daily chores – he will try to help you whenever he gets the opportunity to show that he cares about you.
Our Final Thoughts On a Guy Wanting to Make Love to You
These are just some of the signs when a guy is wanting to make inroads to your heart or soul, instead of just getting laid with you. Depending on your relationship dynamics you have with someone, there might be other signs as well that are usually hard to miss.
Remember, the way you reciprocate to these signs will play a vital role, too. If a guy is not getting the same level of energy or response from your end, these signs will fade away rather quickly.